Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

I had a "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" moment the other day that I thought was worth sharing.

I am lucky to work at a place with a flexible work schedule.  Through the years, I've been able to adjust my hours in order to take my daughters to school, coach, and watch their different athletic events and attend their academic ceremonies.

It's been said that your children grow up in the blink of an eye and if you don't make the time to be involved in their lives, you'll miss it.  There are no repeats.

I've left work to drive 90-minutes to Ledyard to watch a 6-minute track race.  I've travelled and slept in hotels to watch the Derby Pop Warner cheerleaders try to get to Orlando.  I've been to plays, masses, sang on the Derby Green, and done just about everything with my wife and daughters.

Part of our home life is that I usually take care of the outside of the house (lawn, garbage, etc) and my wife takes care of the inside of the house (meals, cleaning, etc...).  The lone exception is that I normally do the laundry.

I actually don't mind doing the laundry but with two adolescent daughters in the house, it can get out of control pretty quickly.

Sunday is laundry day and I have a system of putting a load in the washer, spinning the dryer, and folding the clothes while watching football.  Once the washer and dryer are going, I usually get to nap and watch the games for an hour or so and then repeat the process.  This goes on all day and many a time, Patsy will come downstairs, catch me snoring in my recliner and ask, "What are you doing?"  I always reply, "Doing the laundry."

Anyways, Patsy's mom was in the hospital not too long ago.  She wasn't feeling well and spent the better part of a week getting tests done.

During this time, I upped my game, so she could be with her mom.  I've been taking the girls to school, going to work, picking them up, making dinner, and then cleaning up the dishes afterwards.  Usually about  8 or so, I'm finished and finally get to relax a bit.

It was after one of those long days after her mom was released that Patsy asked if I'd mind to run her mom's iron up to her so that she could get back to feeling normal.

Of course, I said yes, but in the back of my mind I was thinking:

1. We need to do this now, it's nearly 9 p.m.
2. I just did 10 loads of laundry and was settling in for the evening.
3. How is ironing going to make her feel like herself?
4. I don't ever remember seeing her ironing.
5. Why did we borrow her iron when we have our own?

As I put on my slippers, grabbed my coat and pocketed the car keys I asked, "Where's the iron?"

Patsy pointed to a small CVS bag on the table.

I am sure the look on my face was priceless as Patsy immediately said, "You didn't think I was talking about an actual iron, did you?"

My reply, "Well you're in the medical field and I've been doing laundry all day.  What am I supposed to think?"

Happy to report Patsy's mom is home and feeling better.

A Thanksgiving Tale

It was 35 years ago today that I played my last high school football game.

We were playing Shelton in our annual Thanksgiving Day rivalry match-up.

It was a close contest, but in the 4th Quarter something magical happened.

For the first time in the game we were able to sustain a long drive.

We were near the end zone and Coach DeFilippo had called my number.

I was split out opposite the strong side of the Gaels defense. Quarterback Mike Wityak called for the snap, "hut, hut."

I made a move to the outside and drove the strong safety backwards as I quickly curled back to face the quarterback.

Wityak spotted me and threw the ball.

People who haven't played the game may doubt what happened next, but it's as true as anything I've ever experienced.

I knew I was wide open. Although the pass took no longer than 2 or 3 seconds to reach me, I distinctly remember thinking, "focus on the ball, complete the catch, and you will be known forever as the guy who caught the game winning catch to beat Shelton."

I spread my fingers wide as my destiny was about to be fulfilled.

Suddenly, out of nowhere came running back Walt Lungarini.

Walt looked over his shoulder, stepped in front of me, and made the much more difficult over-the-shoulder catch of Wityak's toss.

Years later Wityak would say, "Art that pass was for you all the way. I never even saw Lungarini."

I used to joke about the game winning catch to others. I kidded that the catch was a "Rich Man, Poor Man" moment in my life.

Walt went to UCONN. I went to Waterbury State Technical College.

In my mind, "the catch" was a metaphorically speaking game changing moment in my life. It didn't matter that Walt worked hard to get good grades in high school and I barely managed to get C's. The catch had changed the direction of our lives.

I joked with Walt at one of our reunions that his game winning catch during the 1979 season altered the course of our lives. He laughed.  Sadly, that was probably one of the last moments I had with Walt.

It's been a few years since Walt passed and I know he left behind a wonderful family and many friends.

As I reflect on my life, I'm glad Walt scored the game winning catch. It has allowed me to tell my tale and reflect on a childhood friend.

As I prepare to attend my 35-year class reunion this weekend, I would ask my classmates to pause and give thanks for the memory of Walt and all departed members of the DHS class of 1980.

Happy Thanksgiving to all.

Sam-I-Am

The following has been shamelessly inspired by the Dr. Seuss story, Green Eggs and Ham.  Although the style is in the Dr. Seuss format, the words have been inspired by recent local events. Enjoy.

I am Arthur.

I am Sam.

Sam-I-am.









That Sam-I-am!

That Sam-I-am!

I do not like that

Sam-I-am!

Why did you bury

Your heads in the sand?

Why did you do so

Sam-I-am?

We did not do so

Said Sam-I-am.

We should not, would not

Replied Sam-I-am.

You did not respond

To the EPA.

For four long years

Filed their letters away.

Why did you bury

Your heads in the sand?

Why did you do so

Sam-I-am?

We would not, could not

Respond to the EPA.

For four long years

Hoped it would go away.

We did not bury our 

Heads in the sand.

We should not, would not

Said Sam-I-am.

The network computers

You let them die.

Loaded with viruses

Was my reply.

Why did you bury

Your heads in the sand?

Why did you do so

Sam-I-am?

We did not know 

They were obsolete.

We tried to keep this

Off the street.

We would not, could not

Respond to the EPA.

For four long years

Hoped it would go away.

We did not bury

Our heads in the sand.

We should not, would not

Said Sam-I-am.

South Main, South Main

Surely you jest.

For eight long years

You made a mess.

You did not meet

In the street.

You did not meet

In the heat.

You did not meet

In a box.

You did not meet

With a fox.

Why did you bury

Your heads in the sand?

Why did you do so

Sam-I-am?

We looked at pictures

For eight long years.

We tried to settle all your fears.

We chose to meet

When we had something to say.

My how time slips away.

We did not meet

In the street.

Or in the heat.

Or in a box.
Or with a fox.

We did not know 

They were obsolete.

We tried to keep this

Off the street.

We would not, could not

Respond to the EPA.

For four long years

Hoped it would go away.

We did not bury

Our heads in the sand.

We should not, would not

Said Sam-I-am.

Deal with blight.

That's what we said.

We gave you the money,

Said go ahead.

My mouth formed a frown,
While wearing a crown,
When the newsman relayed
That nothing came down.

Why did you bury

Your heads in the sand?

Why did you do so

Sam-I-am?

Believe me, believe me

We talked about blight.
In one of our heads
There was a bright light.
Hear what we say, hear what we say
Do nothing at all
'Til post Election Day.

So we chose to wait

By a gate, with a plate,

Without a date.

We looked at pictures

For eight long years.

We tried to settle all your fears.

We chose to meet

When we had something to say.

My how time slips away.

We did not meet

In the street.

Or in the heat.

Or in a box.
Or with a fox.

We did not know 

They were obsolete.

We tried to keep this

Off the street.

We would not, could not

Respond to the EPA.

For four long years

Hoped it would go away.

We did not bury

Our heads in the sand.

We should not, would not

Said Sam-I-am.

The taxes, the taxes

Where did they go?

They were not collected

As far as we know.

The money ensures this town will survive.

It's what helps keep the city alive.

Why did you bury

Your heads in the sand?

Why did you do so

Sam-I-am?

We did not collect them?

That's news to us.
We really don't understand
All the fuss.
A million in lost revenue
Is a drop in the bucket in
Our point of view.

Believe me, believe me

We talked about blight.
In one of our heads
There was a bright light.
Hear what we say, hear what we say
Do nothing at all
'Til post Election Day.

So we chose to wait

By a gate, with a plate,

Without a date.

We looked at pictures

For eight long years.

We tried to settle all your fears.

We chose to meet

When we had something to say.

My how time slips away.

We did not meet

In the street.

Or in the heat.

Or in a box.
Or with a fox.

We did not know 

They were obsolete.

We tried to keep this

Off the street.

We would not, could not

Respond to the EPA.

For four long years

Hoped it would go away.

We did not bury

Our heads in the sand.

We should not, would not

Said Sam-I-am.

The truth, the truth

Won't you try the truth?

Nothing can hurt you 

When you tell the truth.

Try it, try it

You will see.

Oh Sam-I-am 

Just once for me.

We will not tell the truth at all.

We will not try it

Not at all.

We do not like the truth

Was said.

To tell the truth

Our party's dead.

They stuck to their guns

I watched with dread.

A dark cloud passed

Overhead.

Their team gathered

From miles around.

And their collective

Heads went into the ground.

I walked away,

To my dismay and

Heard them all faintly say:

We did not collect them?

That's news to us.
We really don't understand
All the fuss.
A million in lost revenue
Is a drop in the bucket in
Our point of view.

Believe me, believe me

We talked about blight.
In one of our heads
There was a bright light.
Hear what we say, hear what we say
Do nothing at all
'Til post Election Day.

So we chose to wait

By a gate, with a plate,

Without a date.

We looked at pictures

For eight long years.

We tried to settle all your fears.

We chose to meet

When we had something to say.

My how time slips away.

We did not meet

In the street.

Or in the heat.

Or in a box.
Or with a fox.

We did not know 

They were obsolete.

We tried to keep this

Off the street.

We would not, could not

Respond to the EPA.

For four long years

Hoped it would go away.

We did not bury

Our heads in the sand.

We should not, would not

Said Sam-I-am.

That Sam-I-am!

That Sam-I-am!

I do not like that

Sam-I-am!

Alderman Art Knows BS

Does anybody remember Bo Jackson?  Bo Jackson was a Heisman Trophy winner from Auburn.  He played in the NFL with the Los Angeles Raiders and played Major League Baseball with the Kansas City Royals.  In the late 80's and early 90’s he endorsed Nike cross-trainers with the successful "Bo Knows" advertising campaign.  Some of the famous ads were; Bo Knows Football, Bo Knows Baseball, and then there's the time he went on stage and played guitar with the great Bo Diddley.  Bo Diddley states afterwards,  "Bo, you don't know diddley."

Well Bo may know football, but Alderman Art knows BS.

Before I begin let me give you my qualifications for being an expert in BS.

First and foremost we have to look at education.  I have a BS degree.  In fact, there is a gold foil stamp under my BS degree that indicates I graduated magna cum laude.   This means that I excelled in the pursuit of my knowledge of BS.

Work experience.  I sold used cars for nearly a decade in the toughest automotive market in the world...Southern California.  To be successful in such a competitive marketplace means you will have tons of BS experience.

Recently, I completed a three-year appointment to a national USPS advisory board.  This meant that I was able to travel to Washington DC several times a year and sit at the big table with high-ranking federal employees.  This experience enabled me to hear and partake in BS at a national level.

With all of this BS experience, I must say that the BS served up by the opposition is low grade.  You see, speaking as an expert, quality BS should have some elements of truth in it.

The opposition talks about stagnant.  I would suggest they look up the meaning of that word instead of selling the public their BS.

The mayor dealt with a 4-million dollar lawsuit from the EPA because the previous people practiced their "Ostrich Politics" of burying their heads in the sand and ignored 4 years worth of letters.

She acquired new computers and greatly enhanced the network environment at City Hall because the previous people again buried their heads in the sand and pretended obsolete operating systems, viruses, and an unstable network was the way to conduct the business of the city.

She allowed the Redevelopment Agency to be disbanded because when you put your head in the sand and hold the city hostage with your promises, don't meet to discuss the future, and then state you were looking at developers pretty pictures, you lose faith with the citizens of Derby.

She formed a blight subcommittee to deal with blight rather than to talk about it.  By the way, the former people were funded to do exactly what we've done, but instead, once again chose to bury their heads in the sand and do nothing.  To date, three buildings have been torn down, with several more on the way.  The blight subcommittee has led to a clean and lien program which cleans up blighted properties and bills the owners.  This has also led to the formation of a volunteer group called Derby Cares.  Derby Cares will help residents with light maintenance needs to either get off or prevent people from being added to the blight list.

On the mayor's watch we have seen the development of Pershing Drive and the clean up of the blighted former Dworkin Chevrolet.  The Derby Cellular property has been sold and we are in the final negotiations of acquiring a property in the redevelopment zone.

Our mayor made cleaning up our city a priority.  Look at the wonderful work our Public Works Department has been doing.  Have you seen the entrance to Witek Park, the Ryan Athletic Complex, and the many repainted crosswalks throughout the city?

This mayor worked with the tax office and collected over a million dollars in taxes that were owed.  The others chose to bury their heads in the sand and just let this cycle of uncollected debt drain the city coffers.

This mayor dealt with our sewage treatment plant and roads by allowing the citizens of Derby to decide what to do by going to referendum.  Despite having a referendum ready to go two years ago, the others kept their heads buried in the sand because they didn't want to deal with these real challenges during an election year.

She conducts weekly open hours for the citizens to meet with her, has hosted several public Discover Derby events to seek input on the direction of our city, and she has consistently let the best people lead.  Mayor Dugatto doesn't care if your name has a D, an R or a U after it.

So to the opposition, I would like to say go peddle your low grade BS somewhere else.  The people of Derby are sick and tired of your petty divisive antics and see that this city is becoming vibrant with each day Mayor Dugatto is at the helm...and that my friends is no BS.

From now on your Delta Tau Chi name is Flounder

In about one month, I will attempt to hike to the summit of Mt. Whitney in California.  Mt. Whitney is the highest summit in the contiguous United States with an elevation of 14,505 feet.

Normally, the hike is a 2-3 day hike to the summit.  I will be trying to climb 11 miles up and 11 miles back down in a single day.  In other words, my group and I will be doing an extreme hike.

An extreme hike sounds interesting except for the fact that I get winded walking up to my mailbox (anyone who has been to my driveway understands that there is no disgrace from being out of breath after walking up my driveway).

Anyways, my buddy, Scott has been following my progress on Facebook and has offered me advice when I've asked for it.  My latest attempt at understanding where I am (and where I need to be) with regards to training occurred when I told Scott my training regimen.

"Well Scott, I've been going to the gym and setting the incline on the treadmill to 15.  I just ran a 5k road race and I've been on a couple of small hikes."

He replied, "Sounds good.  Try doing long distance runs or hikes at least once a week and climb 3-4 thousand foot elevations and you'll be fine."

Is that all?  I'm having a problem with the "you'll be fine" line.

I just climbed the highest summit in Connecticut three weeks ago.  The elevation was 2,316 feet, but the actual elevation gain for that hike was a mere 1,560 feet.

Two weeks ago, I did a 10-mile hike up and down two moderately sized mountains (mere hills when compared to Whitney) and was limping the last 1 1/2 miles back to my car. Going downhill was taking its toll on my knees to the point that I was wincing in pain with each step.  Never mind the fact that I couldn't walk for nearly two days after the hike.

Last week, I flew up a mountain and back while wearing knee support and I felt fine.  Of course, my pace was 26 minutes per mile.  Let's see, if I use 26 minutes per mile as a baseline.  For the sake of my poor math skills, we'll round up to 1 mile per thirty minutes or 2 miles per hour.  At that pace, I should complete the 22 miles in 11 hours.

But wait...the books say it takes 16-20 hours to complete the round-trip journey.  It looks like I would need to hike at a 1.25 mile per hour pace to be in that range.

This past weekend, I went up three grueling mountains and back and felt great.  No knee pain and was able to walk afterwards.  Although it seems like the training is paying off, the hike was only 5 1/2 miles.  Twenty-two miles is a whole other ballgame.

Let's talk about my group.

It seems like there will be five of us.  Scott, his youngest son, Gus, and two of Scott's California friends (Tim and Kevin).

While communicating with Scott he told me they all have nicknames.  I don't know if this is a ritual sort of thing or tradition when you attempt Mt. Whitney, but Scott is known as Scott the Wolf.  His son, Gus is known as Gus the Bus.  Tim the Dragon is on board as is Kevin the Brown Trout.

Me?  Well I can't help thinking of the movie Animal House.  The scene where John Belushi gives everyone their Delta Tau Chi names.

It seems that Scott has proclaimed that from now on, my Mt. Whitney name is Arturo the Viking.